You could say time has become my nemesis the day I became a mother, in the middle of a thriving career as an international lawyer traveling the world, married to a workaholic. When I had my first child, time took a whole new meaning. It felt like it was no longer mine. That I lost a big chunk of freedom in exchange for an abundance of love and giggles. Since then I cannot count the number of times when I said to myself “But I don’t have the time”. No time for friends. No time for the gym. No time to travel. No time to see my relatives back in France. You name it… there was no time for it. So when a psychic back in France told me that I would write three books, I looked at her like a rabbit caught in headlights.
The truth is that we have a lot more time than we think we have, but most of the time, we are not strategic with it. Not only that, we lie to ourselves about not being strategic. A bit like people who want to lose weight and have really bad eating habits but are in denial and complain about it not being fair that their slim friend can eat anything she wants and they can’t. That attitude doesn’t work. We need to get out of denial. How much time do we spend gossiping, watching Netflix for hours mindlessly or scrolling Facebook? Let’s be honest here. I raise my hand for Facebook. It has taken me a long time to find a balance between my craving for human interaction through social media and my need to have time for things that matter to me or my family.
We waste time for a variety of reasons. I have identified two main: poor boundaries and stress. The first one has several components that are mostly linked to fears. The fear of missing out, the fear that if we say no people won’t love us anymore or think we are selfish (spoiler alert: if people only love you because you say yes to them all the time, then they don’t love you for who you are), the desire to help everyone, the habit of putting ourselves last (which by the way turns us into pretty resentful creatures), the habit of numbing ourselves instead of dealing with our emotions in a healthier way.
The second aspect has to to with our friend Einstein. It stems in the fact that time is not the linear thing that we believe. It is all relative. To quote Albert “If you sit with a nice girl for two hours, it seems like two minutes; when you sit on a hot stove for two minutes, if seems like two hours. That’s relativity.” Clever man.
We have all experienced this first hand. So how do we use this in our business? In order to become the masters of time, we need a plan, a structure and a vision. And we need to operate from our zone of genius. Work that sits in our zone of genius makes our heart sing and our soul soar. This was definitely not what I felt when I was a business lawyer, but yes I feel this way as a spiritual lawyer and intuitive business strategist. We also need to chill out about everything. That does not mean we sit on our couch and eat crisps all day. It does mean however, that we stop wanting things to happen yesterday as if we were in a hurry.
If you would like to hear about this as well as entertaining stories from my own experience about time, list to this episode on the podcast. You can find it on the player below, in iTunes and in stitcher.
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